BJ'S Wholesale Club Event

Thursday was a BJ's Back to school event, which I was fortunate to attend. I have been a BJ's club member for some 10 years now. We had the opportunity to see and sample a lot of the items BJ's offer for back to school, from healthy snacks to name brand clothing, like Izod, to back packs and notebooks and pens and pencils ect. Being a BJ's shopper I already have some of the outfits for my daughter but the item I loved, which I didn't know existed was erasable highlighters. Yeah! Where were they when I was in school. I am very fortunate and blessed to have the best job in the world, I work for the number 1 college in America according to Forbes Magazine, The United States Military Academy at West Point. I can't wait to to tell my guys about the highlighters. I am sure they will love them too.
I want to thank BJ's for the back pack full of supplies and the jacket for my daughter, which they gave us for attending and my sister-in-law Kristina for the invite to the event. Thank you!

Finding the time and energy....

Well it has been some time since I last wrote something, so I am going to try and do a better job at it. It really is hard to find the time to write. I go to work, come home make dinner tend to the kids, tend to the mother, then go to the gym, by the time I get home I am exhausted. Like now I am falling asleep. The kids are back to school so I am going to try to make a schedule and fit some time for me and blogging in.

to begin another time...

I am going to write a blog about how my mother is jealous or something about my bariatric surgery....and how she is so perfect and does all the right things ... and lost 175 pounds all by herself ....let me just say she is so full of shit if you saw her ass it looks like it has been building up there for 50 years....any way ... I am just to tired tonight to write it , but I don't want to forget the subject....lol...lol...lol...until tomorrow ..maybe...good night all...

My Mother....

Well I think my mother is trying to kill me...lol...lol...She uses a walker and she doesn't really need it ... it is a tool in her plan ...it seems to fall right in front of me when my hands are full and I almost break my neck and fall down the stairs ...when we are out in public her walker pulls up the carpet so when I walk past her to open the door for her i trip and yes almost break my neck....lol...lol...then I help her in the house with the dam thing and almost break my neck because I have everything in my hands and the walker gets hung up on things getting in the door and I loose my balance...so anyone have any suggestions about how to loose the walker please help.....she truly doesn't need it, she uses it for attention... help me please...lol...lol...

Banckruptcy....

This year has really been hell for me. Not too much good in my life. On top of my father dying, I also claimed bankruptcy. I, in my infinite wisdom thought that I was supposed to pay for a mortgage for a house I didn't live in and for my apartment that I did live in and all my other bills on my small income. Well I soon found myself in $35,000.00 in debt and falling faster and faster so I went on-line to ask a question about bankruptcy and within 5 minutes, no lie, a lawyer in my area called me back at10pm and spoke with me for an hour. I made an appointment with him and got the ball rolling. Everything took about 3 months from start to finish and I was debt free.

My lawyer was terrific. He handled everything, and it was painless, I really did nothing. It is not my ideal solution. I have always had excellent credit and prided myself on that, but when you marry an ass who had money problems prior to getting married, well, I should have seen it coming. I thought I could control it.

I have learned I can only control myself and my actions, and my thoughts. I have learned a very hard costly lesson. I now am trying real hard to get thing financial back in order. It is going to take some time but I am determined. I have a plan and hopefully it will all work out ...In 2010 I WIN!

Bariatric Surgery

Ok on a good note, In on June 1st I had a duodenal switch, which is bariatric surgery. I had 90% of my stomach removed and my small intestine shortened and some switching of things. It took me about 4 years and too many attempts to count to loose weight before deciding the surgery was for me. I was 80 pounds over weight, I had high blood pressure, high cholesterol, depression ( was fat because I was depressed and I was depressed because I was fat), my breathing was labored, and I just felt horrible, also my mother and father both have all my problems and heart and lung, and kidney problems and diabetes, and obesity. I was headed steadfast in their tracks and I was determined it wasn't going to happen to me. I need to be around for my 5 year old daughter. I was ready.

I went to my doctor and got the ball rolling. From June 1st, 2009 to present I am happy to report I have never felt better an I have lost 75lbs. I feel wonderful.

Now I will tell you this it was not easy by any means. I had the surgery and the first 6 weeks were hell. There were times and days I was so sorry I had the surgery and really really was devastated. But there is a god, i prayed and god made every day a little better. I couldn't eat solid food and could only drink out of a medicine cup and sip all day long. I felt thirsty all the time, I never felt hungry, but was supposed to eat, I had no strength because I didn't eat, but then I got it together and did what I was suppose to do and it all fell into place.

My doctor is the best and research proved that. He is the top in the country, he is one of the only doctors that will do the duodenal switch because it is very risky, but not for him..lol...lol...he is very sure of himself...lol..lol...but it was the only surgery I could have because of the type of stomach condition I have. I had originally wanted the lap band surgery.

Well I am soooo ecstatic right now. I look great and feel great and if anyone is considering it I would love to share my experience and hard work with you. Also, it is only a tool, I still continue to work hard, I have to eat right and exercise, (which i am not to good at...lol...lol...lol...) to make the surgery a continued success, I can become fat and unhealthy all over again. But I am determined and am loving my new lease on life. YEAH ME!

My 16 year old now 17 year old....

This year is so full of surprises.

My youngest son has friends that I just don't like. I have never liked any of his friends. When I discuss his friends with him he gets very defensive and sticks up for his friends and swears he would "take a bullet for them." I ask him if they would do the same and he doesn't answer.

One friend suggested that they to go to the store so he could steal a scorpion and my son said yes so that he could steal crickets for his tarantula. Needless to say my son was arrested when he went back to the store and his friend he would take a bullet for left him high and dry.

My son was arrested for stealing $3.00 worth of crickets and he took the rap for the scorpion. He lives with his father (that is another story) and his father never took him to court on the proper day. A warrant was issued and my son turned himself in and was arrested a 2nd time for not appearing to court.

When he got the new date I took him. Now I am humiliated thinking I am going to know the judge or court clerks or lawyers because I was involved in the town and knew lots of people, but to my relief, I didn't know anyone. My son on the other hand, had friends there and as they came in they all said hello to each other as if they were at a social function or gathering. Then he also made a friend while there.

Next came the real good ones, the convicts in orange jump suits and they were shackled together from the county jail. My son had a friend in that group, and my son's best friend's step-father was there too. They all said "hi" to each other as though nothing was wrong.

I was soooooooo upset and my son couldn't understand that....Oh yeah, i forgot when we were first going into court my son was afraid, but after his friend cam in and told him it was my sons first time it would be nothing he had a big change in attitude.

Well he got off with a slap on the wrist although I told the prosecutor to give him at least community service and the prosecutor said no. I need to talk to him before our turn then he would have gotten some. I am fighting to get physical custody back of my son so we will see, pray for me.

His father really didn't think this situation was a problem and the fact that his son is smoking pot, got arrested, failed classes and summer school is no big deal. I guess I really know how to pick them...lol...lol...lol...lol...I believe it is never to late to intervene.

I can't go back I can only move forward. I did what I believed to be the best for everyone at the time I decided to let him move to his father's but circumstances have changed. I will do what I need to do for now.